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Kitkatshadow 57F
0 posts
7/7/2020 8:18 am
Married men /woman abusing this lifestyle


Main blog in comments

DancingDom 74M
22527 posts
7/7/2020 8:23 am

Wish I could read it.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 8:24 am

This is something i have noticed now for a while. Married peeps using this lifestyle as a way to cheat, or call it what you will. Yes, the best Master i ever had was married, but trust me when i say, i knew his circumstances, and due to that i was his sub. I posted a blog recently of a conversation (if one can call it that) with a married ""DOM"" but trust me when i say, he was no Dom, he was purely seeking a local "whore" Obviously he is not getting it at home, and lets face it, sites like this are open for easy prey.
I look at some profiles here of so called "Doms" i see the words discrete, and wham! you know they are married. Is this what we have become?
It is a sad day, when what we believe in becomes a way for married people to find a way to get free sex.


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 8:26 am

Sorry DD, you where faster than me lol


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 8:28 am

I am a broody little brat, i know... But this shit is happening!


Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
7/7/2020 9:20 am

Not everybody believes in openness. I would think that it becomes very obvious very quickly if their only interest in "the lifestyle" ia a quick fuck. As always: buyer beware!


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 9:28 am

    Quoting  :

No, hun, you are wrong, these are peeps from my home town... That is the scary part, they are not looking for "wank fodder" they are really looking for a piece of side meat!....


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 9:30 am

    Quoting Raven_GB:
    Not everybody believes in openness. I would think that it becomes very obvious very quickly if their only interest in "the lifestyle" ia a quick fuck. As always: buyer beware!
This is what prompted me to write this blog. I am no newbie to being a sub, and yes, i can spot them very fast. My concern is for the younger less experienced subs, who have no clue, and fall into the trap.


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 10:05 am

    Quoting  :

Sadly, it is. Predators are out there!...... Maybe i should follow Sir Scribes advice and start a chat room for newbie subs.... But sadly, i do not have the tolerance for it


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/7/2020 10:41 am

    Quoting  :

I have said this before, and will say it once more, you are wise beyond your years... big hugs


LyvEn4payne 71M

7/15/2020 10:34 pm

    Quoting Kitkatshadow:
    This is something i have noticed now for a while. Married peeps using this lifestyle as a way to cheat, or call it what you will. Yes, the best Master i ever had was married, but trust me when i say, i knew his circumstances, and due to that i was his sub. I posted a blog recently of a conversation (if one can call it that) with a married ""DOM"" but trust me when i say, he was no Dom, he was purely seeking a local "whore" Obviously he is not getting it at home, and lets face it, sites like this are open for easy prey.
    I look at some profiles here of so called "Doms" i see the words discrete, and wham! you know they are married. Is this what we have become?
    It is a sad day, when what we believe in becomes a way for married people to find a way to get free sex.
Are you sure they are married?


Kitkatshadow 57F

7/15/2020 11:03 pm

If they say they are, then it must be true? Who the hell would lie about that??


DancingDom 74M
22527 posts
7/19/2020 1:42 pm

I have been around since the days of the sex magazines/newspapers (nudist, swinger, gay or whatever) you found in a sex store or from the store on the other side of the tracks that kept them under the counter. Better than 50% of the ads, were married folks, looking for something discreet.

It may seem more noticeable now days in the BDSM community because of they way sites like this one are marketed for easy sex. Swingers and those in open relationships, usually indicate their interest.

There is a small percentage of people who are in high profile careers who do request discretion so they are not outed. But they are more or less upfront about that. But still some of them are cheating.

For me, if ii learn someone is cheating, I will not get involved with them or if I learn of it after I am involved, I end things instantly.

Your current icon photo reminds me of how much I enjoy breast lay and nipple torture.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


LyvEn4payne 71M

7/20/2020 2:49 am

    Quoting Kitkatshadow:
    If they say they are, then it must be true? Who the hell would lie about that??
Don Knotts?



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