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No argument from me on your thoughts here. I have had this same discussion with my best friend who is also submissive. I don't understand how one can truly go both ways. I have tried to top and did it alright because I do understand what a submissive might crave but I don't care to do it anymore. It does not feed my soul. And this is all about feeding the soul, isn't it?
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No argument from me on your thoughts here. I have had this same discussion with my best friend who is also submissive. I don't understand how one can truly go both ways. I have tried to top and did it alright because I do understand what a submissive might crave but I don't care to do it anymore. It does not feed my soul. And this is all about feeding the soul, isn't it? 
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I've had this discussion with others and read similar discussions before too. Me too. My tendency is to agree with ST, but there was one explanation I saw that shed a different and logical light on the subject. That person that said to look at it like a 'bi' person. You can be attracted to both sexes, so why not be attracted to both dynamics - Dominant and submissive. That's the one. That was a different perspective I hadn't contemplated before. Make Women Female Again
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You ask switches "to chime in with their input, be objective and help Me make sense of it." Is there really any point in my doing this when you admit freely that "Switches make Me nervous. More to the point; they make me reluctant to interact with them" My profile explains at great length that I have difficulty in labeling myself with a one word fits all description such as sub dom or switch. Maybe this is why I have few friends here... But I am what I am and can be nothing but honest about myself... Am I truly immersed in the lifestyle...?? that depends on your definition of immersed and lifestyle, but as things open up, yes I intend to attend munches etc again. Was I a regular fetish club attendee, yes a few years ago when those clubs were still open in my home county, and yes I would still be an attendee had they not closed down! You asked for my honest opinion, well, one thing I have always disliked, (within the BDSM community) is that whole ethos of "My kink is better than your kink!" It seems to me that this is how you see yourself. Maybe this is what raised my hackles a little... I don't want to drone on in some pompous manner about "my journey" ie, my evolution/experiences that have brought me to my current situation/position/role, so I shall end this post here. Suffice to say how can you tar all switches with the same brush? I doubt very very few will share the experiences that shaped me.
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That's just some narrow minded thinking. You might as well replace the word "Switch" and insert any ethnic group, religion, sexuality. I really comes off as bigoted. You wouldn't turn down a bi-girl if she showed up with friends. Why would you get nervous around a switch?
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Interesting blog twisted... I will not say I am nervous around switches... But if they are not committed to a Dominant role what does that mean if I am with them?? Am I then expected to change roles to give "them a break" or "mix it up"?? And will they be really happy if I don't?? Just seems like switches are more about the kink.. And I have heard numerous times they are the kinkiest... Just saying.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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Interesting blog twisted... I will not say I am nervous around switches... But if they are not committed to a Dominant role what does that mean if I am with them?? Am I then expected to change roles to give "them a break" or "mix it up"?? And will they be really happy if I don't?? Just seems like switches are more about the kink.. And I have heard numerous times they are the kinkiest... Just saying.. Nothing 'wrong' with it.. just feels like a square peg in a round hole
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That's just some narrow minded thinking. You might as well replace the word "Switch" and insert any ethnic group, religion, sexuality. I really comes off as bigoted. You wouldn't turn down a bi-girl if she showed up with friends. Why would you get nervous around a switch? This is all relative to My own set of experiences, thus the call to hear from other switches on the matter, but to say I'm 'bigoted' is just a knee jerk reaction from someone that's clearly far too defensive.
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5/25/2021 5:03 pm |
As always, your mileage may vary.
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a real lifestyler isn't a role player. one 'plays a role' when they are acting, pretending or otherwise portraying a facade.. a true 'Dominant' instinctively dominates and a true submissive submits. It's what makes them prosper and self actualize. Perhaps that's where I get confused? I cant simultaneously be Dominant AND submissive.. one would simply be a lie.
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I agree with Your blog wholeheartedly! I am naturally Dominant, I only want natural submissives. I JUST SAY No to switching they want their cake and eat it too. My world doesn’t turn that way... TAKE A STAND! 👸🏼💋
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