Bukowski Insight
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Posted:Oct 7, 2024 7:32 am
Last Updated:Oct 7, 2024 12:33 pm 316 Views
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Charles Bukowski holds a special place in my heart as one of my favorite authors. His writing resonates deeply with me, and I believe his work remains as impactful and relevant today as it was when it was first written. If you're looking to delve into his literature, I highly recommend starting with "Women," a captivating and thought-provoking exploration of the complexities of human relationships.
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* “Some people never go crazy. What truly horrible lives they must lead.”
* “What matters most is how well you walk through the fire”
*“You have to die a few times before you can really
live.”
* “The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.”
* “My ambition is handicapped by laziness”
* “Real loneliness is not necessarily limited to when you are alone.”
* “You begin saving the world by saving one man at a time; all else is grandiose romanticism or politics.”
* “Life's as kind as you let it be.”
*“Things get bad for all of us, almost continually, and what we do under the constant stress reveals who/what we are.”
* “She's mad, but she's magic. There's no lie in her fire.”
* “The difference between a democracy and a dictatorship is that in a democracy you vote first and take orders later; in a dictatorship, you don't have to waste your time voting”
* “We are here to laugh at the odds and live our lives so well that Death will tremble to take us.”
* “If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
* “Understand me. I’m not like an ordinary world. I have my madness, I live in another dimension and I do not have time for things that have no soul.”
* “Goodness can be found sometimes in the middle of hell.”
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Cravings
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Posted:Oct 4, 2024 8:19 am
Last Updated:Oct 4, 2024 8:19 pm 2492 Views
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I crave a love so deep, the ocean would be jealous.
- Pablo Neruda
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A Letter I'll Never Send.
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Posted:Oct 1, 2024 12:29 am
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2024 11:34 pm 4934 Views
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Darling,
My love is vicious for you.
I’ve broken many hearts, including my own, because I refuse to settle for anything less than the exact shade of your soul.
It will be a color I can’t quite name, but somehow I’ll recognize it as déjà vu has always been the story of how I’d find you.
It will be the color of falling asleep during a thunderstorm and waking up to the smell of firewood and sea salt.
It will be the color of the first days of spring, with my windows rolled down and adventure on the breeze.
It will be the color of hugging the people I love and hearing their voices after being away from them for a while.
It will be the color of the backs of my eyelids, the one I see every time I blink and dream; the one I will see eternally when my body fails and my soul leaves this earth.
So if I must, I’ll break their hearts and they'll break mine. I will search until I finally come across your lovely hues.
And then I’ll paint my life with the shades of you so that the rest of the world might understand why you’re my favorite color.
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It's That Time of Year Again (Fuck the Flu)
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Posted:Sep 25, 2024 2:33 am
Last Updated:Oct 7, 2024 6:52 am 8855 Views
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Once again, I find myself battling the flu. It's been five long days, and unfortunately, I'm still not on the mend. When I first visited the doctor, they informed me that it was viral, so there was no specific treatment available. However, upon returning to the doctor yesterday( five days later and much sicker), I received the news that I had developed bronchitis and a sinus infection. In response, they prescribed an extensive array of medications, enough to fill an entire medicine cabinet.
Has anyone else caught the flu yet this year? I'm curious because, just like last year, I got the flu jab at my local clinic as a preventive measure. However, it seems like it didn't work for me. Within a week of getting the flu jab, I started experiencing flu-like symptoms. I'm feeling terrible and it's making me reconsider getting the flu jab in the future. This thing is kicking my ass, so I'm going to take some meds and drink a few bottles of water, and snuggle back in bed.
~M
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Why A Collar?
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Posted:Sep 24, 2024 4:49 am
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2024 1:38 am 9059 Views
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Collars stand as one of the most revered symbols in the BDSM community, embodying both profound significance and, regrettably, frequent misuse. For a submissive, a collar transcends mere material; it represents the deepest desires and the ultimate surrender to another. It serves not only as a physical emblem of belonging but also as a powerful testament to the dominant’s love and protection. Adorning the neck with a collar is an intimate declaration, subtly announcing to the world that someone has been claimed and cherished in a profoundly personal and consensual bond.
Much like a wedding band in traditional relationships, the collar in D/S dynamics signifies more than just ownership and submission, it embodies a mutual commitment between partners. It is a potent symbol of the intricate dance between giving and receiving, where each party plays a crucial role in the exchange of power. The collar unites them in a sacred ritual, completing the circle of their dynamic with deep emotional and physical resonance. In its elegance and significance, the collar becomes a living testament to their shared journey, reflecting both the authority and devotion that shape their connection.
Edward Volkl
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Friends With Benefits
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Posted:Sep 23, 2024 5:33 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2024 4:10 am 9880 Views
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He possessed a delightful blend of mischievousness and affection. Kind and considerate, he had a knack for remembering the little things and always watching out for me. He was adept at lifting my spirits and never settled for calling me simply "pretty," always opting for "gorgeous" or "beautiful." His joy came from seeing the smile on my face, valuing it far more than any physical aspect. He possessed an innate understanding of my needs, sparing me the burden of explanation. He embodied a gentleman's grace but knew when to set it aside, transitioning seamlessly from friend to lover, from saint to sinner. He exuded a mature masculinity, naturally assuming the role without needing to be placed on a pedestal. He was a beautiful, authentic soul, a free fucking spirit I was thankful to know.
~M
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What Drives Submission
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Posted:Sep 22, 2024 2:33 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2024 4:02 am 10768 Views
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I wrote a post on What Drives Dominance a couple of years ago. Through my D/s experiences, I came to see that the desire for control didn’t always come from the same place. So I laid out a few things that drive the desire to dominate someone.
Submission: has been a bit harder for me to parse out, perhaps because I’m too close to it. I don’t live inside a Dominant’s head, so I could step back and think about it, a little like an anthropologist. But in listening to and learning from other submissives, I have started to notice a few themes. The desire to submit seems to come from four core needs: escape accountability, belonging, and service.
Escape: Some submissives want to submit so they can set down all the responsibilities they carry, just for a little while. They can let go and let their minds go quiet. I think many of us have moments like this, but some are motivated by this more than others. I often hear this in submissives who aren’t in or aren’t looking for a full-spectrum D/s relationship. I think that’s because escape isn’t sustainable when you try to do it all the time. But sometimes it can be incredibly cathartic and recharging.
Accountability: Some submissives feel fulfilled by the structure, rules, and accountability of a D/s relationship. It’s not that they need micromanaging or that they can’t set their structure; it’s that being held accountable feels intimate and loving. There is comfort in knowing someone is responsible for you. Someone is vigilant and will notice when something has slipped. And they will devote the effort to set things back on the right path.
Belonging: Some submissives need to be possessed completely by their Dominants. It’s that feeling of being kept. Owned. It’s the feeling of belonging to another person so deeply that it removes all sense of boundaries from that person. For some, this need comes from a need to feel secure—safe from abandonment and loss. For others, it’s about the feeling of constant connection that ownership can bring. There is a deep intimacy in giving all of yourself to a person, even the ugly parts, and feeling their whole-hearted acceptance.
Service: Some submissives have a deep need to serve their Dominants. It’s often not about praise or recognition from their Dominant. They get fulfillment primarily from seeing that their Dominant is comfortable, happy, and cared for. This may be doing the laundry, fixing a drink, taking your Dominant’s shoes off, or serving sexually on command. And some service-driven submissives may get no fulfillment from domestic chores but deeply value other forms of service. Regardless of the specific task, it’s a need to fulfill your Dominant’s needs.
Very few submissives are driven by just one of these needs. I’ve been driven by each of the first three at various times (I do serve, but I am not often driven to submit by a need to serve). But these underlying needs make a difference in incompatibility. A submissive who needs belonging may not mesh well with a Dominant who needs control. These needs affect what you’re looking for and how you experience D/s. It’s important to assess (and occasionally reassess) not only what you want, but also why you want it.
~cherishedproperty
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The Perfect Submissive
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Posted:Sep 18, 2024 7:54 am
Last Updated:Sep 22, 2024 3:48 am 13346 Views
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My early beliefs about D/s were shaped by a series of pretty emotionally abusive relationships. And by shit, I read in the weird crevices of the internet. For a long time, I didn’t know any better.
Pair that with the fact that I’m a perfectionist and you got some pretty dicey situations. And I’m not talking oh, I like to do well - I’m talking a nearly pathological need to be perfect.
I used to think the perfect sub would take whatever they were given and beg for more. I used to think the perfect sub would never have to use their safeword. I used to think the perfect sub was always willing, ready, and available.
I used to think the perfect sub didn’t have limits. Or that if they did then they’d happily push and test and abandon those limits to please their Dom(me).
I used to think the perfect sub didn’t make waves, didn’t ask for too much, and didn’t need more than what they were given.
I used to think the perfect sub was focused entirely on the relationship and on pleasing their Dom(me) and that nothing was ever - EVER - more important than that.
I used to think the perfect sub was pleasing, quiet, agreeable, soft, and pliant. Always. Without exception.
But now I know better.
The perfect sub has limits and safewords when it gets to be too much. The perfect sub is not afraid to safeword whenever and whomever they need to.
The perfect sub has needs and speaks up about those needs because they know that their Dom(me) is not a mind reader.
The perfect sub has expectations, requirements, and beliefs that they bring to the relationship. The perfect sub has deal-breakers and things that will not be negotiated.
The perfect sub is not always ready, not always willing, and not always available - and that’s okay.
The perfect sub has a life and focuses outside of the relationship. The perfect sub has interests, hobbies, friends, and a life. And sometimes that life requires attention.
The perfect sub doesn’t necessarily like everything that’s depicted in porn. The perfect sub can’t necessarily deepthroat or take a spanking or be tied up in elaborate positions.
The perfect sub knows that communication is key. And knows that it’s okay to stand up for themselves. And knows that their Dom(me) is not a god but a human.
And the perfect sub is human too. Which means that they’re not really perfect at all.
And that’s okay.
I’m learning.
~DirtyLittleBookworm
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Abandonment Issues
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Posted:Sep 16, 2024 3:17 am
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2024 7:57 pm 13818 Views
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I want someone who will love me and not leave me.
I said this in a conversation my friends and I had about what they like in a man. This conversation happened in the middle of a very hard day for me. There’s no solid ground in my life right now, and nothing feels okay. I’m juggling about a dozen balls of chaos and uncertainties, and I am not good at it. Maybe I can handle a few chaotic things if I have something solid to lean against. But I don’t have that anymore.
It’s been more than a year now since he left me. My Daddy. My rock. Always there, always checking on me, always holding the leash tightly when I am overwhelmed so that I can feel the solid ground under me. He loved me. But it wasn’t enough. He left me anyway. He once said that he’d always feel ownership of me, even if we weren’t together. Then he left me anyway.
It took me several months to be a person again. And for the longest time, I didn’t want to date because it felt too chaotic—too many unknowns, too much thought had to go into it. A month ago, I finally felt ready. But sometimes the damage he did to me sneaks up on me.
I just want someone who will love me and not leave me.
We all do, don’t we? But this is different. This is the damage talking. This is fear of opening up. Because sometimes you open up, and they say they love you, and then they leave you anyway. They break your heart, and then they spend almost 24 hours in a hotel room with you while you cry and throw things and cry some more and cry in a restaurant and come back and have empty, heartbroken sex because they won’t touch you like they own you. Because it’s like they are touching you with someone else’s hands. And THEN they leave you.
Except they don’t, because they feel some responsibility for you. Or maybe they’re a sadist or a masochist, I can never figure out which. So they stick around and give you an occasional reminder of what it’s like to have that connection. Just enough so you don’t go numb or wilt away completely. And they don’t leave even when they should, and you don’t know how to make them. Because you never did learn to have dignity with this person. Because sometimes you open up, they say they love you, and instead of leaving, they stick around to do damage. But maybe that’s okay because they didn’t leave?
At least he didn’t leave. He never left. Even when he did.
I used to say that. In defense of what a good man he is. So good to look out for me, to check in on me. But he DID leave me. He did. I was there. He said always, but he meant in my heart, not his. And then he left.
Now I’m dating. I’m even meeting people I like. But there’s still a lot of “no” bottled up inside me. A lot of selfishness. Keeping a death grip on my time and my submission until I feel sure. But what if I’m broken now? What if I’m not able to let go and trust like I once did? What if the damage keeps sneaking up on me like this? It feels safer to be alone. It feels safer not to date, not to open myself up. Because after him, all my instincts feel wrong. And I don’t want to experience that pain again. Why risk it?
Because sometimes the “I’d rather be alone girl” becomes the lonely girl. And that’s when the truth comes out. And the scars.
I just want someone who will love me and not leave me.
It doesn’t feel like much to ask. But damn, whoever wants to love me is going to have some serious walls to break down. And I’m not quite sure what it looks like on the other side. But I’m trying to figure it out.
@cherishedproperty
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His Hands
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Posted:Sep 15, 2024 1:06 am
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2024 5:38 am 14141 Views
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A woman can be captivated by how your hands reveal your ability to protect her from harm, caress her with tenderness, support her in times of need, hold her close in moments of intimacy, and possess her heart and soul with love and care.
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