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rosaenaluin 65F
10635 posts
8/14/2024 3:29 am
On the move, again,


Again, going to my sister for a fortnight, maybe
Maybe even longer, it all depends on how things go,
how the therapy works for her, how and if she sleeps.

She had not ONE night of sleep, ever since her husband died.
That is since mid Januari....

Sometimes she sleeps 15 minutes, something not at all
sometimes only a few minutes and awake again
SHe had experienced a very big, deep, real nasty trauma, with him dying.
And her two grown-up , too

All ricieve therapy...

That is no good, at all..... to not be able to sleep,
ofcourse you can drink yourself into a coma light... But that is not how my sister works.
She also does not want to get addicted to sleep medication, had a bad experience with that, too, with her husband
Almost all things medicinal, is traumatized, because of her husband...
It is such a mess.

everything is connected with everything, that is for sure!

sighs......

So, see, if i can help her, just to be there, be able to talk,
but if your whole marriage was build on keeping things a secret??
Be threaten into silence?
Fear?

It is not easy to break through that silence pack....
I will see how things go...

not here, for a while,

enjoy yourselfs!

rosaenaluin 65F
11515 posts
8/14/2024 3:32 am

packing again, i get the hang of it, now!


bimom4taboo 54F
2859 posts
8/14/2024 3:57 am

there life style might not (she thinks) is not a normal ine with her husband. so if you try talking to her about made up friends and how wild there is and laugh and say thats wild and sexy i wish i could be that way. she might open up. maybe get her a dog.so she has something to care for a puppy. just thinking out laud. i hope you or someone i pray for both of you breaks thru to her and she opens up soon


rosaenaluin 65F
11515 posts
8/14/2024 5:56 am

bimom,
Thank you, for your good idea's.🙏🤷
I will see how things go.🤔👍


bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4961 posts
8/14/2024 6:30 am

good luck Rosa safe travels grief is different for all & this has extenuating circumstances!


drmgirl622 69F  
27026 posts
8/14/2024 6:32 am

I'm sure all of the anxiety your sister had is now coming to the surface. She's lucky to have you!


rosaenaluin 65F
11515 posts
8/14/2024 7:47 am

bdsmDd,
Thank you,🙏
Yes, indeed, it is.....


rosaenaluin 65F
11515 posts
8/14/2024 7:50 am

drmgirl,
Yes, indeed, and this could take some years, i fear....
As long as the EMDR therapy settles in, and she can get a hold on her life.....


ExNameForUse 54F
6101 posts
8/16/2024 11:38 am

It made me sad to read about your sister and her kid's condition, Rosa. It is priceless to have someone accountable around when things are tough and you are one of a kind sister... it took her years to get to this point so I guess it won't be easy to get out of that abyss, but with all the support both professional and your warm and friendly company... I am sure one day at a time she and they all together will get better... Patience, love, understanding... that's all they need.
You be well too, dear Rosa


rosaenaluin 65F
11515 posts
8/16/2024 9:48 pm

Exname,
Aah, thank you, ❤️🙏 😊
for your kind and understanding words.
She is doing rather well, although the situation is still heavy.

She is even making plans, for HER future, i am proud of how well she is actually doing, fighting herself back to a good living. ❤️💋🙏☀️ 💪

We, women are the strongest survivers, of all kind of missery...🙏😊👊😍💕



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