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A photo with at least smiling face gets my attention. I prefer words to pictures. A sense of humour and/or a sassy attitude goes down well with me.
People with a great sense of humor rock 😎
@rdy2try4 Thanks for your kind words.
What could the opposite sex do to pique your interest? Share their non sexual interests. Explore if we have common ground.
What type of message would you respond to? Greeting. Non sexual message.
What kind of photos would attract your attention? Smile even if partial face. Maybe partial body shot - dressed or undressed but not genitalia until I know them.
What kind of information should a profile have that would catch your interest? Interests both sexual and non. What they are seeking. It must sound honest.
Too bad little heads don't read 🙄
For a main profile picture, I prefer a smile or torso (hairy chests especially get my attention). I don't mind if there is a penis picture but multiple picures of it seem like overkill!
Profiles that say "just ask" are ignored. How do I know if I'm interested enough to ask if there's nothing there?
You have all the time you need, to make sure your profile has proper spelling and punctuation. You are looking for a potential partner (of some sort) so think of your profile as a resume.
@staci_19702 No woman likes missed periods!
The ones with profiles that say "just ask," I'll ask to move on 😂
There are several options men can use to attract the female gaze. Over the years I've written blogs with photo examples on other sexy pics they could try out.
With experience comes the red flags or lack of flags that I use when I look at a profile, or with the initial interaction. Majority of my past play friends had a good mix of photos, and none had a penis avatar profile. They had body pics, other artistic type of nudes pics, a few well done cock pics (not the Fboy fail types).
I don't mind the penis pic profiles because they delete themselves off my list of possibilities. Their target audience are either men or women that like those profiles.
Plus I will judge you based on how your penis looks, If I don't like the way it looks in a pic, why would I want to see it in real life. 😊
The sad reality is that little heads don't read 🙄
So many men will not put their relationship status here. If left out, I assume married or committed. So, that goes in the no pile. The dick pics do nothing for me. The pics that make me want to gag are the tongue and anus pics. So, the no pile. The pics of him in the act, no pile. The grouchy, no smile or pissed off pic, no pile. The first message of detailed what he would or wants to do to me( sit on his face, fk me like a porn star, oh wait, that one may get a pass😀. I hate the angry and insulting profile. Now, what woman would not want to cuddle up with that? 💁🏻♀️
It really doesn't leave very many in the yes pile, does it??
Wanna see whose no pile is higher? 😂
@JN63JPN my pickins are a little slim aren’t they? I may bend a little depending on the rest of him. And my level of sexual frustration 😀
@positively4you
Slim pickings? You ain't seen nothing when you're in a land where the ideal is young, fit, and Asian or young, fit, and blonde. I am none of those.
People forget that there are other people behind the keyboard
Any video or dick pic that shows the person is NOT using a condom is a real fear producing turn off for me. People seem to have forgotten that STD's are still a real thing. I had a guy write me today telling me I should give up on trying to meet someone as no man my age can have sex with a condom. It was frightening that someone was so easygoing about my safety and his own.
Dudes I've played with (40-50+) didn't have problems with condoms 🤔
My desires have changed over time and no doubt will continue to do so. Now could enjoy having a great cookie tree. Ok sine brush with death was a d has been to get healthy again. A long slow road. Really like your image with statement above about ☺ and completely agree. Not really looking for anyone at moment as need to get own house in order. Would prefer pictures and conversation that classy yet flirtatious.
In life have always tryed to live up to the Code of the Gentel Royal Knight and the Perfect Southern Gentleman. Do so while also following the Cowboy Code. Am a complex introvert and an intellectual. So any potential mid to long term possibility has to understand these things
My dislike of dick pics haven't changed 😂
Fun conversations are great. It appears that the vast majority are challenged in the vocabulary department 🙄
@JN63JPN not fond of them either.
Guys with a dick in his profile trying to pick women are so wrong!
Totally agree 😎
I do know that a dick pic does bring out more dicks than ladies! I have posted a few myself when I let the little head do the thinking!
I'm guessing the vast majority here are letting the little heads do the talking 😂
@JN63JPN especially the younger guys
@rdy2try4 yes, but most of the guys on trending posts are younger
@rdy2try4 I have to fight the urge to think with my dick all the time!
@rdy2try4 I fail at times when it’s been months since he’s been in my partner and the urge to merge becomes unbearable!
@rdy2try4 I understand what you’re saying and that’s why I’m not trying to force myself on anyone, period! If a woman wants to have sex I won’t turn her away but at the same time I’m not going to coerce her into anything either.
Yes I know about the blue ball monkeys, 😂. I have came across some frightening things during Internet searches! You don’t want to know about those!
@rdy2try4 honestly I am not making excuses, I have fought my urges to the point I was not only aching in my balls but I was also physically shaking, just to remain true to my partner! Believe me I have done a little of everything to keep from messing around! I found that the only thing that helps my situation is to talk to someone. Not my partner because what I have to say will set her back in her progress with her situation!
@rdy2try4 that’s why I haven’t left this site because I have found like minded people to chat with about my problems. I have to talk things out.
@rdy2try4 yes and it’s good to be able to talk candidly about sex with someone without being seen as a pervert! I need to say things that aren’t publicly acceptable even though they’re not bad.
@rdy2try4 yes I agree, I miss a friend from my old job because we had that type friendship. I could talk with her about sex and she didn’t think I was wanting to get in her pants. Not going to say that I wouldn’t have had she offered, she was highly attractive, but we were kindred spirits. We both just needed someone to talk to when we were horny and our partners were unavailable for whatever reason.
@rdy2try4 I understand but I don’t fuck them and dump them.
@rdy2try4 I was just saying if she wanted to I wouldn’t turn her away but I am also not going coerce her into anything
@rdy2try4 I have lots of female friends that I don’t think about having sex with, the one I was talking about brought up the subject herself.
I have come to the conclusion that, although this is an adult site, the approaches from men leave me in no doubt, reading posts, comments and comments on photographs, that some men regard this as a "meat market" and the ladies as fair game or easy - which is not generally the case.....
That's how the women on this site are marketed, but that's a different story
@rdy2try4 - thank you for your comment, I too had some success on on line dating, just not on this site, sadly I lost my wife in 2019, and am now a widower- perhaps you could be so kind as to look at my profile and let me have your comments, both good or bad. Thank you P
@rdy2try4 -Thank you, I have got a message but I cannot read it as only a standard member, could you send to my blog please, thank you
@rdy2try4 -Thank you, I have turned on my Top Fan option
@rdy2try4 Thank you, I have read your message and agree with your comment, smiling is difficult after the past 4 years, laughter not so difficult.....
Some of my favorite photos of women here are half face shots showing their lips, and perhaps some cleavage in a nice bra.
You just described my HNW pics 😂
When I was dating on the site I never had a dick pic. I had 4 photos only and a short video of me and my Shepard in the park. I was very direct and to the point. I told everyone what I wanted and what she would have of me in return. And it was basically this.
All my Stats. Height weight and body type. No Drugs of any kind.
I don't care what you look like; but you must be healthy. I'm not here for looks I'm here to find a woman that wants to spend the rest of their life with me. Someone I can walk side by side with in travel and adventure in our own way.
You must be between the ages of 40 and 59. "I was 42 at the time."
No I don't want a one time thing. No I won't go to a wedding with you. (Believe or not had two woman ask me.) I was born and raised in the South. I have manners, and I use them. I can be quite at times and not talk alot it doesn't mean I'm upset or not listening. Most of the time it's because I'm paying attention to what you are saying and don't want to stop you. Yes I'm in the military and yes I'm gone alot because of what's going on these days.
This is important, if your here to cheat on your BF or husband don't message me. You must be single and have a job have your own house and car. I have my life in order so should you.
What you can count on from me. I don't have sex on first date. I won't send you a dick pic, it between 5 and 8. Lets leave something for our time in the bedroom just for us. And I won't ask for pictures of your privates. I know what they look like. I'm honest to a fault. I don't cheat I have been cheated on and it's not right. I can be a bit shy at times if I think your beautiful. Even if this seems like I'm not.
Last but not least. I love women I respect them no matter what. Unless they are just an ugly person inside. Meaning that they are just mean and stuck up. I love a strong woman who knows what she wants in as well as out of the bedroom.
If you made it this far Thank you and hope to hear from you. One last thing I love to giving full body massages and have my own table and hot tub. So yes I can and have given a few full spa treatments with a great dinner with nothing asked for in return. I will ask if this is all you are asking for please let me know up front, if I'm not dating anyone then we can make a date for this. If I'm seeing someone then she will have to say yes, she is OK with it. This page will only be up if I'm still single and not in a committed relationship.
So that is what my profile in a nut shell use to look like. And to be honest I never had any problems and during that time really only sent out two messages to women I wanted to date. It seemed to work rather well. That was over ten years ago as well.
You had me at hot tub 😂
I haven't been seriously looking here for a long time... it's pretty much one in a thousand message / profile combos that pique any interest.
I'm not interested in having sex with someone unless I find them interesting...the profile or message needs to tell me something about them that leads me to believe I'd also have fun hanging out with them outside of the bedroom.
Positively4you spelled out the long list of yucks.
Yeah, the interest has to be mutual. For the most part, dudes are messaging as many as they can, and screen the responses. Sux, but it is what it is. Their loss.
I know, I know I already posted but this profile pic and profiles in general is a big topic.
You stated pics lie. They sure do! Or, at least misrepresent people! I’ve been off and on with different profiles over time. I see profiles that have been on here for years with the same pics. Then as I go through their pics I can virtually see them age. Nothing worse than meet and seeing someone unrecognizable!
I'm guilty of not changing my profile pics but the pics I use in my blogs are more recent 🙂
Would agree, seems like some men can't read, but some women are very cruel in their responses
My experience is that woman who are turned off by a man’s penis are typically looking for something much more than just sex. So if you’re looking for an FWB cock pic might be the perfect filter!
I have heard horror stories from my playmates about the interactions they've had with other women.
@Checkinuout2024
I must be the exception since my FWBs didn't have dick pics as their main profile pic.
@rdy2try4 there is no arguing that! But I think many men don’t want the first time a woman sees them naked to be when they’re about to have sex and then find out he doesn’t like what she sees under the clothes. I kind of think women like that too.
@rdy2try4 I actually have considered the risks associated with meeting anyone from here (or online from any site). There are men masquerading as women, and even women can pull a trigger. Meeting in public places preferably during the hours of light is the minimum one can do for their safety regardless of gender.
Now sending a dick pic is quite different than posting one. I’d also say that there are few men that want to see a close up of pussy only. Yet a frontal that includes the pussy is very different. In the end there are a lot of guys with big cocks and women with attractive pussies that otherwise may not be attractive to us.
Now Quasimodo??? Are you certain he was a male? We can’t be presumptive of his gender identity!!!
I don't have a problem with dick pics at least on this site. we know what w are here for. Id like to know what im getting myself into lol. I have a lot of booty cheeks lol, so a micro penis will not do. I am looking for someone to help me with anal training so a huge dick will not do here. Also those tongue pics gross me out especially if it hasnt been brushed, thats an automatic no. What i don't inderstand are the soft pics....nobody wants to see that lmao. I wiill say filling out the profile and adding something about yourself or your desires, helps us to see if we have common interests. Having no pic is a no for me as well
@lusciouslisa2019 posted hilarious advice on dick pics 😂
There are SO many answers to this. Like, my profile is pretty sparse because, honestly, talking about myself is really difficult. I'm like Zaphod Beeblebrox in that "I'm just zis guy." I think the real thing is consistent and intelligent interaction rather than just one thing.
I've never sent a dick pick to anyone who didn't ask for one first
At the minimum, I look to see if the basic info is filled out. It helps to know what they're looking for.
@JN63JPN True words there. (I also never look at the dating side other than when I log in )
Honestly don’t know
Neither do a lot of dudes at the buzzing place 😂
@JN63JPN true, I have chatted with women here who are all about seeing the dick (one was Joyful) and others who want intellectual conversation (that one wanted both). Most want to start with the mind and then work their way to the dick. Then there’s the riffraff that a atomic is posting about.
@Bigwilly3392c
Starting off with the mind and working your way down isn't a bad strategy
@JN63JPN I agree but my dick doesn’t, lol 😂. I’m always fighting to keep him under control!
@rdy2try4 I agree
Then there's the profiles that make me feel as if I'm being scolded and talked down to.
Clearly they're not ones you'd be interested in
It starts with what one is looking for. If a long term relationship, then nude pics probably are not the answer. For many of us, it seems we are looking for either FWBs, whether it be a single person or couples adding another. In these situations I want to see their nude body—preferably more than just a closeup of the pussy (I’m straight). I like to see as much as they dare show. I don’t expect a full face pic and strongly against such. A woman who says a bit of what she likes sexually can be a turn on. But dare a woman say anything disparaging about men in general or about a past lover…I have no interest. Why should I believe I’ll be treated differently when the time may come to say good-bye?
Keep in mind many of us have an exhibitionist side as well and find it thrilling to be naughty. Still, I can see not posting a pic of JUST one’s genitals as their only pic. I’ve usually tried to post enough variety to show my entire body. It has the added bonus of showing my size for those women who seem to want to see that (there are more than you may think)
I don't get how people bad-mouth their exes to complete strangers. It's such a turn-off.
Important conservation
Yes, it is