William Etty's Candaules, King of Lydia, Shews his Wife by Stealth to Gyges, One of his Ministers, as She Goes to Bed, 1820:
This post, with poll, is about voyeurism as an erotic or sexual practice; it's not concerned with mooning, skinny-dipping, streaking, rubbernecking and even window-shopping. Furthermore, the post isn't concerned with non-consenting and illegal acts of voyeurism such as flashing, revenge porn and upskirting.
Voyeurism, according to Wikipedia, "is the sexual interest in or practice of watching other people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing, sexual activity, or other actions of a private nature."
Voyeurism can take many forms. One form is candaulism in which one person shows their naked partner, including images of their naked partner, to others for pleasure. This form of voyeurism is named after Candaules, the king of Lydia - see William Etty's painting above.
Voyeurism can be done in person in real time live (eg going to a peep show, strip club, sex show, etc). It can be done virtually (eg watching a cam show). And voyeurism can be done from afar not in real time (eg looking at porn in a magazine or on the internet, watching a sex video or film).
In my swinging years, some couples did not want sex with others. Their kick was watching another couple having sex or having another couple watching them have sex. Essentially these couples were swinging voyeurs. These couples didn't interest me and my then partner; we wanted sex with others, full swap in the same room.
Voyeurs need exhibitionists, whether willing or unwilling. An exhibitionist needs a voyeur or at least the thought of a voyeur. Lady Godiva needed Peeping Tom!
Lady Godiva and Peeping Tom of Coventry, c1820:
Have you engaged in voyeurism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it?
Have you engaged in exhibitionism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it?
What do you like best, being a voyeur or an exhibitionist?
I've engaged in many forms of voyeurism - watching porn, going to a peep show, a strip club and a sex show, and attending sex clubs and sex parties. Being a voyeur doesn't do a lot sexually for me. Going to a peep show, a strip club and a sex show just left me cold.
However, there were three occasions when I enjoyed being a voyeur. First, I used to enjoy doing a strip tease and masturbating while on the balcony overlooking my then girlfriend downstairs in the lounge. She would then strip and masturbate but she soon got the message to come upstairs to fuck.
Second, there was one time at a sex club when my partner got on all fours naked while I found a stranger to fuck her from behind while I watched. That was hot, very hot.
Third, at sex parties it was a big turn-on watching other couples having sex while having sex in the same room. Once there were about ten people having mingling sex on the lounge floor covered with duvets and pillows. That was very hot as well.
Voyeurism is a turn-on but I do want to get involved. I'm much more of an exhibitionist than a voyeur. I get too impatient just watching. I want to get involved! When it comes to sex, I'm far more of a do-er than a see-er.
James Gillray's Sir Richard Worse than Sly, Exposing his Wife's Bottom; - O Fye!, 1782:
Below is a poll where you can anonymously indicate your experiences of voyeurism and exhibitionism. Multiple selections are allowed for the poll.
This post follows on from my FANCY A FACIAL?, FANCY A CHOKE?, FANCY A RIM?, FANCY A SPIT-ROAST?, FANCY A SPANK?, FANCY A WAX?, FANCY A ROLE?, FANCY A GOLDEN SHOWER? and FANCY A TITFUCK? blog posts in a series about various sexual acts. Below, as the first comment, is a summary of the results of a poll contained in my second-to-last blog post on watersports (see FANCY A GOLDEN SHOWER?) and, as a second comment, is a summary of the results of a poll contained in the my last blog post on titfucking (see FANCY A TITFUCK?).
Eugène Delacroix's Louis_d'Orléans Devoilant une Maitresse (Louis d'Orléans Showing off his Mistress), 1825-1826:
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I'd say I'm about equal parts exhibitionist and voyeur.
Have you engaged in voyeurism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it? - Strip clubs for sure, but after a while the naughtiness wears off and they get kind of boring. Watching other couples fuck at the swingers nekkie resort was MUCH MORE fun, perhaps because they were doing it for fun and weren't hustling for money.
Have you engaged in exhibitionism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it? What do you like best, being a voyeur or an exhibitionist? My VERY first swingers scene was with a couple where the guy taped me fucking his wife. He was not present but his camera was all set up and ready to roll when his wife and I got to their playroom. And AGAIN at the swingers nekkie resort being watched by the other couples while fucking was great fun!!
What do I like best about it all? - Just that it's so naughty.
I've not been into strip clubs. And I walked out of a sex show before the end. Far too contrived.
Deconvoluting this one is going to be a nightmare!
It started out in my head as an easy post/poll to do but then it got complicated, certainly deconvoluting and maybe even discombobulating!
Anyone who has seen my blog posts knows that I am an Exhibitionist. I will say that I am not a Flasher ie someone who shows their sexual bits, usually male, to surprise, alarm or discust others. Sadly, too many think only of the flasher when they hear Exhibitionist.
You are a very noble exhibitionist.
I guess I'm busted! Another good and interesting post Spunky!
It's good to be busted sometimes.
I'm just looking at the high numbers after all the options I chose - (I tried and liked it). I'm assuming lots of people on a sex site will LIKE a lot of these. Biker rallies and swing clubs got me more into "showing the goods". And I've always liked to watch others having sex.
It seems we're all voyeurs and exhibitionists here, which is hardly a surprise given the nature of the site.
When a former playmate took me to a sex club (happening bar) for the first time, my impression was "porn in 3D." It turned him on, but it didn't do much for me, tho.
I think it's hot watching a playmate having fun with someone else, but strangers, not so much.
Watching people have sex doesn't too much for me unless I'm having sex at the same time.
In my view sex is something best shared with like minded others x
Sex is definitely best shared.
Thanks for stopping by.
Have you engaged in voyeurism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it? I do enjoy watching here and there. It is a prelude to sex or masturbation though. To watch and not touch is just torture
Have you engaged in exhibitionism as an erotic or sexual practice? And if so, did you like it? I like to flirt and tease. I do not consider myself an exhibitionist though. That's too far for my comfort.
What do you like best, being a voyeur or an exhibitionist? Voyeur
I'm like you. Watching without touching is very frustrating, too frustrating even.
Window shopping....another phrase for window peeping? I have never watched folks having sex live, in person....that would be interesting to see how it felt. Being watched....that would not be a pleasure for me.
I went to a live sex show in Amsterdam. It left me cold as it was very contrived. Going to sex club or party is better for watching people having sex.
@spunkycumfun So when you say window shopping you mean watching a live sex show?
@redswallow777 Window-shopping, at least here, is when you look at stuff in shop windows with no intention of buying.
I'm not an exhibitionist. I don't like being watched.
Not even by the man fucking you?
@spunkycumfun Maybe I keep the lights off and the curtains closed.
@joisygirl And clothes on?
@spunkycumfun AND SOCKS of course
@joisygirl Wearing socks when having sex is bad form!
@spunkycumfun Oh no, a study has shown it facilitates orgasm.
@joisygirl That's clearly why you are multi-orgasmic!
@spunkycumfun You know it!
You know this was a hard question to answer. I mean I have had sex in cars with another couple not sure if they watched or not. But I am sure they heard us..
I have cammed on here before giving my hubby a blow job and I enjoy very much being watched when I did this and loved reading the comments that were made too.
There is something thrilling about being watched I thin and I like watching too if I am interested in what the couples are doing..
Thanks for another great post today my friend. I hope your Friday leads you into a more even exciting weekend..
It seems you are both an exhibitionist and a voyeur.
For me, both voyeurism and exhibitionism are essential elements of sex.
I think you're very right. Both arouse the sexual senses.
Trust me, there are those that you'd enjoy watching having sex, and others that leave you with nightmares!!
@RavenGB Yes! Absolutely, I agree... though I wasn’t just talking about anyone, only beautiful people! 😄
Nearly 50 people voted in a poll about titfucking on my FANCY A TITFUCK? blog post. This is a very low turnout but only over 300 viewed the post compared to the 3,700 who viewed my initially denied FANCY A GOLDEN SHOWER? blog post. Sometimes it seems that it pays to be denied!
Given the low number of votes cast, it's almost meaningless to analyse the poll results. The poll found that 12 men had been titfucked! Unless those men had large moobs (that's, man boobs), then this finding is unbelievable and suggests that the wording of the poll needed revising. It's possible, as was pointed out in a comment, that some confusion over what giving and receiving a titfuck meant.
From the comments on the blog post, there seemed to be a gender divide about titfucking. Men more than women seemed to like titfucking. Also size seems to matter when it comes to titfucking.
The poll isn't at all representative of either the whole population or even the membership here. The poll is just reflective of those who responded. In fact, I declare the poll findings to be statistically useless and even the poll to be flawed in design. Obviously it's the respondents' and not my fault!
Nearly 200 people voted in a poll about watersports on my FANCY A GOLDEN SHOWER? blog post. That's not a bad turnout given that my post was first denied and then later approved by the site.
Of the respondents, about one-third had engaged and two-thirds had not engaged in watersports.
Of those who had partaken in watersports, the vast majority enjoyed the experience, whether giving or receiving a golden shower.
Of those who hadn't partaken in watersports, about a half wanted to or would do so if their partner wanted to, whether giving or receiving a golden shower.
The poll results slightly surprised, especially in light of the comments received on the blog post. I was expecting far more people to dislike watersports if partaken and far more people not to not want to partake in watersports. This is an example where the qualitative and quantitative research findings are not in synch, usually suggesting that further research is needed!
The poll isn't at all representative of either the whole population or even the membership here. The poll is just reflective of those who responded.