How my brutally honest dating profile got a better response

I guess, knowing me, in the back of my head, I had the motivation that this would also convey that I was a self-aware person who knew he had flaws but was trying to work on them.

That my honesty would win me brownie points.

But mostly I thought it would be fun.

So I did it. I admitted that I was an absolute shambles when it came to relationships but that I was always willing to try again.

I highlighted that I could be shallow and lack empathy, that I had grand ideas but tended to need to be motivated by external factors. It was not a short list.

I’ve never had so many replies

It seems that my profile stood out from all the others and had women stopping by just to compliment me on that fact.

Even if they weren’t interested sexually it gave me the chance to strike up a conversation with them.

Conversations based on something more than ‘you look like someone I’d like to have sex with and I only read your profile so I could mention something from it when I contacted you so you didn’t think I was only contacting you because I thought you looked like someone I’d like to have sex with’.

That’s the usual approach of most people on dating sites. Or maybe that’s just me. I mentioned I was ‘shallow’, right?

So that’s all you have to do to write a killer dating profile – be honest. Really honest

If you can blend the two, even better. Lay it all out there.

Give people all the information and let them make up their own mind.

Be secure in yourself to know that, even for all your flaws and past screw ups, you’re still a really decent person who would be worth getting to know.

Don’t be afraid of the people who are going to judge you for your mistakes or foibles, they’ll end up doing that no matter when you tell them.

This way, you don’t even have to deal with them in the first place and you get to know that the people who contact you after reading your profile really might be more interested in you rather than just the photo you’ve uploaded