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I don’t recommend dating vamistle / vamistlezellas / Jamie rowley.
He reminds me very much of my nerdy elitist gatekeeping ex. He definitely has the same vibe about him. Jamie is not welcoming. If you are a different type of nerd that is into your own things and you’re not into every single thing that he’s into, you will be rejected by him. Due to his very high and impossible standards.
He’s not understanding, caring or forgiving. If you are your own person and individual and you have your own likes and dislikes, if he cannot press all of his interests on you, in the form of wanting you to try everything under the guise “you’ll like it” and that if he’s wrong he’ll make a mental note, and that if he’s right he’ll make a note of it, because it’s all about being right for him, if you don’t do this he will be rejected.
Because again your interest, your own individuality is not good enough for him. If you don’t wanna try his things and do his stuff, you will be rejected. And he will throw out the line “but I would’ve did it for you.” Guilt trip, manipulation.
Doesn’t matter if you have issues with this and have explained why you have said issues with it. He won’t listen or hear it. He is uncompromising. My exes would flood my messages with Memes and videos and no longer words so I don’t like that. The exes would also scrutinize me and watch my reactions and then get upset when I didn’t like a movie or so-and-so. I don’t like that PRESSURE.
According to Jamie, it’s how he “bonds.”Doesn’t matter that we had all these other common interests and could find all these other activities. Apparently me not wanting to try a certain board game or watch something deems me close minded in his eyes to which he called me multiple times during our date. Misconstrued to mean, because I don’t wanna try some of the stuff, means apparently according to him, I don’t wanna try anything and everything be it restaurants, foods, etc. which is not true but not something he listened to when explained.
He doesn’t want a girlfriend. He wants a canvas he can mold.
This guy, will build you up, make you feel like he’s wanted you for the longest time, will have told you so, will talk about doing things like deleting all of his dating profiles because he’s so sure about you, he’s so sure it’ll work out, and then when you drop a bombshell that you’re not 100% into everything he’s into, he has to “think about it” now when it comes to dating you, he’s not sure about you, suddenly you went from the girl of his dreams to being incompatible.
He will deem you incompatible based off of that and deem you incompatible because you hate movie talkers. You don’t like when people talk throughout movies. You don’t like a peanut gallery. Doesn’t matter to you if you’ve seen the movie multiple times. He does not like that. And says things like he shouldn’t have to change himself for a relationship. Something so small as in not talking throughout a movie means completely changing himself and his personality apparently.
Jamie does not want to change, compromise, accommodate or anything when it comes to anyone in a relationship. He is not grounded in reality. Specially when it comes to relationships. He wants to be able to stay the same, stay as is and if a girl doesn’t like it, she will be rejected like me. Because apparently he’s perfect. And so perfect that when he gets with another individual, it will be perfect Harmony and smooth sailing and she will like everything and anything about him. Which wasn’t me so I was discarded.
Not a sort of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with if he is unchanging, unmoving, stubborn and will discard you just for the fact that you don’t like a peanut gallery when it comes to watching movies. Apparently that makes you incompatible as well. Because it means he has to change himself apparently and if he’s upset about that small thing, imagine the big things.
He also views not liking how he dress as another thing he shouldn’t have to change about himself and doesn’t want to change. He views it as a major change. A change she shouldn’t have to do in a relationship.
Most men cannot dress. Jamie is not the exception. He has some poor fashion choices. No one is telling him to change how he dresses, I was just saying there are certain things that I find more attractive that a guy wears. Which is not most of his wardrobe. Jamie is the type that wants to dress and cosplay almost everywhere.
When you have self-esteem issues like me and doesn’t like calling unwanted attention to themselves, this is an issue. To which Jamie argued about because apparently I dress a certain way at work which means why can’t he do it everywhere else. “ you do it so why can’t I?”
This is the blame game. This is a guy that’s not apologetic. This is not a guy that does not care about the happiness of his partner. Imagine long-term relationship, he would throw out this line I would imagine. Is that somebody you wanna spend the rest of your life with with that attitude? I’ve been with narcissist that would refuse an apology because I did something similar five years ago so why should he apologize for making me upset or hurting my feelings in the present date? That’s the same type of vibe I’m getting from Jamie. it’s almost like justifying cheating. That if one person cheats it should be OK for the other person to cheat to. That’s the vibe I’m getting.
Again, the guy doesn’t listen, doesn’t care, it’s not caring about the other person, only about his once in himself.
And, I wouldn’t recommend dating him if you’re insecure like me. His Face book, Insta gram, Fet life an only fans feed is full of women. Full of women. Full of cosplayers. Full of women. He is very active on fet life and only fans. Liking pictures of women, guys transitioning as women, guys cross dressing as women, etc. Me personally, I wouldn’t want to date a guy that behaves this way because it screams cheater, it screams wandering eyes, it doesn’t seem like a guy who would be faithful and all about his girl when he’s continuously on websites like that looking at other women and his friends list are full of other women.
I really really really liked him. He made me feel insecure and not good enough. He made me feel like everything that I was into already was not good enough. That me being a nerd as I am, into the things as I am was not good enough for him. It’s like he wanted to press everything else on me. And was very resistant when, for example I’m not a tabletop nerd, I don’t play board games, not anymore, no interest. It really hurt that he deemed us, despite our long conversations about everything else, incompatible based off of little things, trivial things, which apparently are huge humongous big things to him. And because of that, I don’t think he’s ever going to find a wife which is what I wanted to be to him.
So I wouldn’t recommend dating him. He’s not a nice guy. He’s not a good guy. He’s not a caring guy. He’s unmoving. He’s uncompromising. He doesn’t care about anyone else but himself. He will make you feel not good about yourself. He will make you feel not good enough and not worthy. There is so many things.
Not recommend.
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